63 thoughts on “No Nothing Douche”

  1. Absolutely stunning guy. And I think that the people who will be mad over his standards will likely be those who are not eligible to get with him lmao. I need to hunt me this hottie down.

     
  2. BJC did you seriously make that website? How pathetic and petty is your life? There’s about 1 billion people starving in Africa and your #1 cause in life is to rag on people because they’re honest about their sexual desires. GET A LIFE u moron. Life is not fair and u need to build a bridge and get over it.

     
  3. I seriously cant at that website… you must be one of the people that constantly gets rejected on grindr. let me see…fat, asian and old. lol. You can’t change what people find attractive and most people dont like asians because they have small you know whats. U need to accept the facts of life.

     
  4. This guy fell off the douche tree, hit every branch on the way down, landed in a douche puddle, rolled down the douche hill and landed in the douche river, which powers the hydroelectric turbines that power Douche City

     
  5. Tom every post you make proves why people like myself need to make these sorts of websites. Maybe you should take the time to read the articles on it rather than spewing all your hatred everywhere. And for the record, if you HAD read the site, you would realise I’m white. I also get plenty of sex and friendships from Grindr and elsewhere. Unlike you, I have a social conscience and think there’s a need for people to behave with more respect than the likes of you. Now come on – say something ignorant back to me – it’s expected of you.

     
  6. It’s just pathetic. People can’t help what they’re attracted to. I bet you’re not attracted to fatties, so that makes u a bigot too. Just stfu, you’re a whiny little fag.

     
  7. For people like Robert, who lives in a different reality to people not as ‘privileged’ as him – here’s is an excerpt of Peggy McIntosh’s White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack.

    Daily effects of white privilege

    I decided to try to work on myself at least by identifying some of the daily effects of white privilege in my life. I have chosen those conditions that I think in my case attach somewhat more to skin-color privilege than to class, religion, ethnic status, or geographic location, though of course all these other factors are intricately intertwined. As far as I can tell, my African American coworkers, friends, and acquaintances with whom I come into daily or frequent contact in this particular time, place and time of work cannot count on most of these conditions.

    1. I can if I wish arrange to be in the company of people of my race most of the time.

    2. I can avoid spending time with people whom I was trained to mistrust and who have learned to mistrust my kind or me.

    3. If I should need to move, I can be pretty sure of renting or purchasing housing in an area which I can afford and in which I would want to live.

    4. I can be pretty sure that my neighbors in such a location will be neutral or pleasant to me.

    5. I can go shopping alone most of the time, pretty well assured that I will not be followed or harassed.

    6. I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my race widely represented.

    7. When I am told about our national heritage or about “civilization,” I am shown that people of my color made it what it is.

    8. I can be sure that my children will be given curricular materials that testify to the existence of their race.

    9. If I want to, I can be pretty sure of finding a publisher for this piece on white privilege.

    10. I can be pretty sure of having my voice heard in a group in which I am the only member of my race.

    11. I can be casual about whether or not to listen to another person’s voice in a group in which s/he is the only member of his/her race.

    12. I can go into a music shop and count on finding the music of my race represented, into a supermarket and find the staple foods which fit with my cultural traditions, into a hairdresser’s shop and find someone who can cut my hair.

    13. Whether I use checks, credit cards or cash, I can count on my skin color not to work against the appearance of financial reliability.

    14. I can arrange to protect my children most of the time from people who might not like them.

    15. I do not have to educate my children to be aware of systemic racism for their own daily physical protection.

    16. I can be pretty sure that my children’s teachers and employers will tolerate them if they fit school and workplace norms; my chief worries about them do not concern others’ attitudes toward their race.

    17. I can talk with my mouth full and not have people put this down to my color.

    18. I can swear, or dress in second hand clothes, or not answer letters, without having people attribute these choices to the bad morals, the poverty or the illiteracy of my race.

    19. I can speak in public to a powerful male group without putting my race on trial.

    20. I can do well in a challenging situation without being called a credit to my race.

    21. I am never asked to speak for all the people of my racial group.

    22. I can remain oblivious of the language and customs of persons of color who constitute the world’s majority without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion.

    23. I can criticize our government and talk about how much I fear its policies and behavior without being seen as a cultural outsider.

    24. I can be pretty sure that if I ask to talk to the “person in charge”, I will be facing a person of my race.

    25. If a traffic cop pulls me over or if the IRS audits my tax return, I can be sure I haven’t been singled out because of my race.

    26. I can easily buy posters, post-cards, picture books, greeting cards, dolls, toys and children’s magazines featuring people of my race.

    27. I can go home from most meetings of organizations I belong to feeling somewhat tied in, rather than isolated, out-of-place, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance or feared.

    28. I can be pretty sure that an argument with a colleague of another race is more likely to jeopardize her/his chances for advancement than to jeopardize mine.

    29. I can be pretty sure that if I argue for the promotion of a person of another race, or a program centering on race, this is not likely to cost me heavily within my present setting, even if my colleagues disagree with me.

    30. If I declare there is a racial issue at hand, or there isn’t a racial issue at hand, my race will lend me more credibility for either position than a person of color will have.

    31. I can choose to ignore developments in minority writing and minority activist programs, or disparage them, or learn from them, but in any case, I can find ways to be more or less protected from negative consequences of any of these choices.

    32. My culture gives me little fear about ignoring the perspectives and powers of people of other races.

    33. I am not made acutely aware that my shape, bearing or body odor will be taken as a reflection on my race.

    34. I can worry about racism without being seen as self-interested or self-seeking.

    35. I can take a job with an affirmative action employer without having my co-workers on the job suspect that I got it because of my race.

    36. If my day, week or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether it had racial overtones.

    37. I can be pretty sure of finding people who would be willing to talk with me and advise me about my next steps, professionally.

    38. I can think over many options, social, political, imaginative or professional, without asking whether a person of my race would be accepted or allowed to do what I want to do.

    39. I can be late to a meeting without having the lateness reflect on my race.

    40. I can choose public accommodation without fearing that people of my race cannot get in or will be mistreated in the places I have chosen.

    41. I can be sure that if I need legal or medical help, my race will not work against me.

    42. I can arrange my activities so that I will never have to experience feelings of rejection owing to my race.

    43. If I have low credibility as a leader I can be sure that my race is not the problem.

    44. I can easily find academic courses and institutions which give attention only to people of my race.

    45. I can expect figurative language and imagery in all of the arts to testify to experiences of my race.

    46. I can chose blemish cover or bandages in “flesh” color and have them more or less match my skin.

    47. I can travel alone or with my spouse without expecting embarrassment or hostility in those who deal with us.

    48. I have no difficulty finding neighborhoods where people approve of our household.

    49. My children are given texts and classes which implicitly support our kind of family unit and do not turn them against my choice of domestic partnership.

    50. I will feel welcomed and “normal” in the usual walks of public life, institutional and social.

     
  8. Oops…that should have said people like TOM.

    Haha been asleep all day today…

    I’ve attached links to info on Peggy McIntosh and her work but it’s waiting moderation.

     
  9. U know how there are some cool straight guys who would stand out to defend gay rights for their own values and social justice purposes. And they are absolutely cool.

    Then, there are some these so-called DL closeted masc str8-acting bi or gay douchebag hypocrites who would easily submit to peer pressure and shamlessly join their homophobic straight friends in name-callings saying thats gay or faggot. And still its a cool way to boost their confidence and masculinity.
    This site is full of these.

    This site is full of them.

     
  10. It’s not about having preferences, Tom. You are such a stupid fucking idiot. It’s about language! No one cares if he doesn’t find fat guys or Asians attractive, he doesn’t need to make other people feel negative about themselves, especially Asians since you can lose weight but you can’t change fucking race.

     
  11. Ignorance is a sick mixture of fear and arrogance. Go read something TOM and make yourself a better person for once.

     
  12. Omg why is there always fighting whenever Asians are involved? Asian guys should get over the fact that some people aren’t attracted to them and will be jerks about it. SOME (not all) white guys need to tone down their superiority-compex 100%.

     
  13. Many people agree with him. “Yo Dude Bro Sup” all ARE pathetic. It’s amazing how unoriginal most queens on Grindr are. Not an original thought passes thru their heads. And more of the same for many posters here.
    LOL at silly queens who come here and bring a soap box with them

     
  14. Parker and Tom, you guys never get it, right?

    Everyone has preference, no one is forcing you to fuck an Asian or a fat guy.

    It’s the tone of the profile. You’re a pair of stupid neanderthals.

     
  15. I find the real douchebags on this site in the comments. I’m talking about you BJC and azul. Get a fuckin’ life. This guy is hot and he just wants a white or latin, in shape guy under 32. That’s not that picky.

     
    1. so if the guy is 32 and a half he wouldn’t want to have sex with him? oh no that’s not “picky”

       
  16. I think when you’re his age and you’re as hot as he is (because he is!), you don’t need to make a laundry list of all the things you don’t want, especially since most are just obvious (not fat, not too old).

    That’s where the douchebaggery comes from in his case. On the plus side, I like that he pointed out the ridiculous “sup bro dude” greetings.

     
    1. is he still going to be a douchebag when his old and ugly and nobody wants him? Karma is a bitch

       
  17. @Todd – ooh burn – you sure told me, man!

    I guess addressing racism and discrimination and seeking social justice, equal treat and mutual respect is a pointless pursuit in the queer community.

    Because judging by the comments of some people here – if the majority thinks it’s acceptable that reject and insult groups of people that they don’t find attractive, thus there group of undesirables should just accept that fact. Why fight it right? They should know and accept their position in the gay hierarchy.

    Similarly, in many countries – the majority believe that the queer community don’t deserve the same rights as the majority as well (like marriage), so the queer community should know and accept their position in the social hierarchy as well.

    So, the lesson we are learning from our fellow queer guys are ACCEPT what the MAJORITY says! Don’t fight for equality and fair treatment. Be treated the way the majority sees you – do not challenge the status quo!

    The majority once classified homosexuality as a mental disorder – why did this change? We should have accepted the majority’s belief/ruling on this because hey – the majority is ALWAYS RIGHT.

     
  18. Ah fuck – lotsa typos, I see – guess I can’t be fucked to write properly anymore (seriously it’s probably not worth it – too many arrogant self absorbed assholes who only care about getting laid than developing social consciousness).

    Anyway, maybe these pro-racist/pro-douchebags are probably right about me – what do I know about racism and homophobia in the queer community…

    So, lemme suggests to the guys who are affected with these issues – contact your GBTIQ NGOs for support or raise the issues with them. Perhaps they can address the issue or raise awareness in the queer community in your city.

    For example, here is a list of multicultural GBLT organizations in New York.

    If there aren’t such organizations in your city – consider finding like-minded individuals and setting up an organization yourselves guys. Don’t expect the majority to care about your cause – you gotta do it yourself.

    (taken from About.com – Manhattan)

    The complexion of New York’s LGBT community is as wonderfully rich and diverse as the city itself. And yet while gays themselves are a minority group, gay culture is not always as inclusive as it could be, even in a legendary melting pot like New York City.

    Several organizations in the metro NYC area therefore exist to help those who are members of two minority communities — one due to their sexual identity, another due to their native culture or race — and who are all too often not completely welcome among either group.

    These multicultural LGBT organizations help provide critical support and social networks for gay people of many races and nationalities, all of whom call New York City home. For more information on these fantastic groups and the communities they serve, follow the links below.

    ADODI New York (gay black men)

    Assal (LBT Arab and Iranian women)

    BlackMen’s Exchange (gay black men)

    The Dari Project (LGBT Koreans)

    FIERCE (LGBTQ youth of color)

    GLAS (gay and lesbian Arabs)

    GMAD (gay black men)

    GAPIMNY (gay Asian & Pacific Island men)

    Irish Queers (LGBT Irish)

    Las Buenas Amigas (Latin lesbians)

    Mateando ((LGBT Argentines and Uruguayans)

    Men of All Colors Together (gay and bisexual men of all races)

    Northeast Two-Spirit Society (LGBT Native Americans)

    PRIDE (LGBT Puerto Ricans)

    Q-Wave (LBT Asian women)

    SALGA (LGBT South Asians)

     
  19. -nup skip. A douchebag is someone who uses hate speech, racism and disgusting separatism to justify personal preference.

    Clearly, language such as no fatties, no rice is racist.

    Sexual preference is something completely different to language that harms readers with abusive labels.

     
  20. I know this guy. He is biracial–part black. So weird that his profile is so racist. Pathetic. No worries. He’ll be old and undesired soon enough. Let him enjoy his youth. When he hits old man road, he will be soooo depressed.

     
    1. If he’s part black, he won’t age anytime soon. Sorry.
      I know black bodybuilders in their 70s and 80s, who are STILL hot…and chased by men and women decades their junior.
      Suck it up. He doesn’t want any of you.:)

       
  21. Imagine you go out to a bar or a club. I walk up to you and say, “Don’t even talk to me because I think you are unattractive.”

    That is why these guys are douchebags. No one would defend my scenario above; only the biggest ass would find it anything but rude and offensive. Why it suddenly becomes acceptable to some people when it’s online is beyond me.

     
  22. I don’t really find him attractive. He’s OK looking looking with a nice smile, but one accident will change that. If he skates, then a fall will ruin his face. His looks are temporary as are all of ours. I don’t look like I did when I was in my twenties, thirties or even now. i personally enjoy people of all ages and races and of BOTH genders. I feel it makes me a better person, Chef, and business man. Don’t hate him, pity him. For after all, he has nothing else. If he even has his looks. Pictures can be altered with the right program.

     
  23. Hey guys. Quit bitching and live with cards you’ve been dealt. I would have no issues with this guy and guarantee he wouldn’t with me. That’s just life. Stop feeling sorry for yourselves and find somebody who gives a shit.

     
  24. @Tom Couldnt we say the same thing about the starving In Africa, about how life is not fair for them. Ive seen plenty of comments online about how they need to take care of this problem themselves and how they were going to stop giving money.

     
  25. “LTR oriented”? LOL

    By the way, Tom the resident racist, I really hope one of these guys kicks the shit out of you eventually. Not kidding.

     
  26. For those who don’t get it… there are ways to express preference and desires without being ignorant, racist, ageist, or douches. It’s easy, just state what you like… leave out what you don’t like. refrain from using absolutes. e.g.

    I ‘m a top that <3 young, fit, white and latin guys that are shorter than me. have a pic please.

    I guarantee this will attract more quality guys that he'd be into than the current profile. who wants a guy that has and displays so many hangups?

     
  27. Im Asian but I assure you that I look better and hotter than you, racist douche like you always comes in a package which is normally 50% marked on the clearance price! Your a sad man!

     
  28. So much aggression! One thing this douche and his kind (e.g. Tom) can’t avoid is time. Soon enough they will be pushed aside in preference to younger guys.Yet I know guys 50+ (not sugar daddies) who are still getting hot young guys because these older men are just lovely people. Youth is very short but a pleasant personality is lifelong. So when your very short youth is over, what will you have? You will be judged by the same standards you are angrily enforcing. Life will seem SO unfair. (Me = 33, white, in a LTR since I was 28)

     
  29. He’s not a douche. He has every right to state his preferences however he likes. Your pathetic feelings about being rejected by yet another hottie be damned.

    You guys are the biggest douches I’ve ever seen.
    No wonder you’re alone.

     
    1. No one is lonelier on this page but you, Adam; seeing that, for multiple years, you haven’t been able to counter-respond with anything other than “He’s not a douche. He’s too masculine for your own goon! You queens bitching proves him rightzz!! Get over yourselvezzzzz!!!!”, all the while some of us “bitchy queens” were actually living with confidence in our gay self-esteems; and with partners who love us.

      Where’s YOUR man on Saturday night? Well, can you answer me that?

       
      1. “My man” is in all of the places you’ll never get to see or enter.
        I know that the truth hurts you, but, again, instead of being so bitter, you might do better by becoming what hot guys want-other hot guys. Prove me wrong.
        Is it that difficult for you to understand, or do you just not have what it takes to get the job done…?

         
        1. still single aint ya ? been a long time bubba .
          ive got mates like you always scouring apps while in a gay bar not seeing whats right there. bit sad really.

           
  30. Adam imagining us staying home on a Saturday watvhing SATC reruns alone makes him feel better when he’s in his trailer watching a golden girls marathon ( mind u I love them girls)

     
    1. LOL
      I don’t have to “imagine” your loneliness.
      Your bitterness about being rejected by guys you’ll never meet paints that picture for me.:)
      What’s SATC?

       
  31. Guys online are so focused on a laundry list of what they want.. Get off those apps and meet others ! You.might meet a 33 hot guy or a 6fy1 one ! No wonder these app addicts are always single

     
  32. “Your bitterness about being rejected by guys you’ll never meet paints that picture for me.”

    And you, Adam, are inferring that ‘bitterness’ from nothing more than an anonymous online post criticizing the petty behavior of a an infantile and narrow grindr head?

    “Stay bitter…and unable to prove me wrong.:)”

    Hey, whate er makes you happy. You never even proved yourself right.

     
  33. I mean i think he’s just a turd. I am saying that from the perspective of someone who really isn’t into white guys, but I don’t advertise it online. He could try that.

     

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