He kind of has a point. Some of my friends have said they can’t really pass for straight and in the same breath said they consider themselves masculine. I just look at them and say “Oh honey…”
Lol@antonio, I ended up with a muscular judoka in a bar 2 weeks ago. According to him, the bartender (a hottie) was too feminine (I disagreed on that, he even had more muscles than I do) but to me he was way more masculine than my judoka (who was also a steward), who had a pink neon saying “fuck me” on the forehead.
@ Jpeg
No, no, you got it wrong. He doesn’t hate himself (why would he?, he is hot). YOU hate him because you know exactly you are not in his league. So are all of you who put this guy down. Stop projecting your hatred to others and start hitting the gym if you want people to notice you!
So transparent…!
@Larry : this guy has way too much muscles IMO, I do not hit the gym to look like that and it usually doesn’t turn me on.
Still, just like Antonio, I consider he has a point.
And he’s propbably hot if you like muscles.
There’s a very odd brand of self hatred at play in these comments that masculinity equates with a perceived notion of heterosexuality of what a heterosexual should be like. In truth very few heterosexual men feel the need to bloat themselves to massive proportions to assert their sexuality, nor do they define themselves by what their muscle mass is. What is a man and what is masculine? Ghandi, Stephen Hawking, Einstein, Martin Luther King are to my mind “real men” and none of them could have held their own in the free weights room. There’s a lot going on in this profile he’s 35 his upper age limit is 35, what’s he going to do next year change the age limit to 36? At some point maybe he’ll grow up and reappraise how he defines masculinity – gender is a fluid concept, especially given that whatever image he portrays what he does in bed makes him a target of hatred for every homophobe out there. I dare say Rick Santorum cuts him no slack for his “masculin” appearance.
Thanks for the perspective, Larry. But you’re just as guilty projecting your assumptions and hatred as the douche on Grindr. Using douchebaggery to point out douchebaggery may be ironic or even hypocritical, but there’s no moral high ground on this site.
Interesting how Larry makes some assumptions about me despite not knowing at all what I look like. That’s ok Larry, I can take the slings, because I’m comfortable with who I am.
What’s the problem here? The guy is looking to get laid, he’s not interviewing people for a job. He didn’t say he wants to run femme guys over with a lawn mower. He’s prob not the hottest or smartest guy out there but high five on being straight forward and being clear about what turns him on
@ Kenny G:
well put. Finally someone with brains. Thanks man.
@Jpeg:
That’s not difficult. I don’t need a major in psychology to be able to see through you. If, you had a body like him, if you were in his league, if you were hot you would not put others down for being popular. Simple.
This brings us to the main point which all of you seen to forget. The context here is about getting laid and not to eradicate certain groups of the human race. Duh!
I suppose you always go for the dudes who think that they can arbitrate standards of masculinity, eh Kenny? Standards that I may note that are very subjective (contrary to his douchy assertion). If that’s not the definition of douchebag, I’m waiting for a better example.
“That’s not difficult. I don’t need a major in psychology to be able to see through you. If, you had a body like him, if you were in his league, if you were hot you would not put others down for being popular. Simple.”
Really? It’s so simple? Can you possibly come up with a better argument than that? This is like the third person (or maybe not) who said this. It’s as wrong as ever. Maybe you like douchebaggery, but I do not. Sorry.
So now homos dont accept other homos just because they prefer masculinity and muscles? Does that mean we should hate on all the beat lovers and chubby chasers too cause they have a sexual preference as to what they are looking for? With some of the comments I am reading it’s the same rationality that left wing fag haters use to describe all gays as a whole. You know the whole, “it’s different from me, therefore I hate it” mentality. Some of you should really think things through before you post total retardedness. Besides I bet he is a power bottom anyways.
In terms of grindr, masculinity is all about the appearance. I think that 5’8 guys have to work a little harder to get noticed too as its def under average height. To me, masculinity is all about being a good guy, being protective of friends and husband and being aman when it comes to tricky situations and issues. If you think it’s all about hitting the gym you gotta take area pity check. ThereS nothing more fem than a guy who tries to hard to be macho and ends up like aYMCA character. I’m fit but don’t look like this guy for sure!
How many gay guys you seen who swagger into the bar dressed like the situation from jersey shore then have a cocktail and complain about their sick cat? Manly behaviour is he best turn on , not just ‘ acting’
Oh And Larry, please get yourself laid. Try Tom , he sounds pretty desperate
@larry & @tom, strident accusations of hypocrisy and “hating” aside, a man who comes out with “if people can tell you’re gay, you’re not masculine” epitomises a world of self-loathing and desperate need for accptance. No one cares that this thirtysomething short-arse wants muscle boys preferably just out of their teens, what masculine, heterosexual straight-acting red-blooded male wouldn’t?
The profiles put up there are pathetic, but so is this comments section. What a mess.
Between the self-loathing queens praising his femmophobia and the guys defending “another idea of msculinity” while in the same breath putting him down because he’s 5’8… The Western civilization sure fucks up the mind of its kids.
Yep, plenty of douchebaggery to go around here. But the douchbag’s profile buys into the ugliest sort of homophobic drivel that demeans effeminacy among men. Guess what, douchebag? No right wing religious nut is gonna give a shit if you’re “straight acting” because if you like to suck cock or get fucked in the ass, then you are by definition effeminate according to their logic. Same goes for other gay bashers. Think about the effect your exclusionary language has on people, and think, too, about the fact that nearly all gay men (you too?) reported feeling insecure about their masculinity as kids. Why then are you so desperate to conform to a gender system that terrorized so many of us as children? And FYI, muscle queen, if you’ve got to get so built up to prove to yourself and others that you’re a real man, then you’re breaking the logic of masculinity–you’re not supposed to try.
I haven’t read all these comments yet. I was going to post about how certain muscular masculine gay guys don’t “act gay” but could be observed as such by casual observers. On the other hand, I think it’s likely that someone before me has already posted something that is so generic and obvious as that, so there you go. 😉
*grabs Mr. 40N-73W’s muscle tits and scrunches them till they become red-hurt*
I haven’t read all these comments yet. I was going to post about how certain muscular masculine gay guys don’t “act gay” but could be noticed as one such by casual observers. On the other hand, I think it’s likely that someone before me has already posted something that is so generic and obvious as that, so there you go. 😉
*grabs Mr. 40N-73W’s muscle tits and scrunches them till they become red-hurt*
This forum is full of trolls…. Ironically enough I
Highly doubt that he has been disappointed that anyone disapproved of his profile. The pure fact is that if you disapprove of it, then in essence you’re not his type, so no skin off his back. The only difference between him and these trolls on this forum is that he is off living his life while the trolls here are obsessing over hating on him cause they don’t agree with what gets his dick hard. What happened to live and let live? Get a life people…
“People usually detest or hate what they can’t get. You Why not live and let live. You seam to have a problem with that.”
The only problem I have is with people who are douchy and self-loating. Really, do you expect me to just sit by and let douchebags be douchebags?
“The only difference between him and these trolls on this forum is that he is off living his life while the trolls here are obsessing over hating on him cause they don’t agree with what gets his dick hard. What happened to live and let live? Get a life people… ”
Says the dude who comes on the same forum to chastise us all. Hilarity.
You are all pathetic sensitive fags. Someone posted me on here because I am athletic and not into FEMs or older guys. Man up and stop giving a fuck about people who don’t give a fuck about you
Actually grindr is a really smart move for this guy. He looks good and the height thing not such as issue . This is what he is offering, many will be interested!
> Could we label them “shortophobia” ?
smh I find “douchebagsincrasy” more appealing, but whatever rocks your boat, sweetheart.
> Maybe he wears stacked heels like Tom cruise
I bet he takes them out of the closet every morning, spends five minutes deciding if they’re visibly gay enough or not, and then puts them back with a sad face.
What most people are missing (and what makes this guy a douchebag) is that he doesn’t see the irony in describing himself as “masc” while saying that “masculine is not subjective”.
Merely behaving like the Douche in kind, bud. So, I guess both us and the “douche” above cancel each other out.
But, of course. You care enough about him and what he says to brand us “trolls”. (And, of course, your entire silly argument is based on the notion that we are). Wouldn’t that also put you in the same boat as us? 😉
we can piss and moan about homophobia all we want guys but the way we treat ourselves and each other is PATHETIC.
Id like to meet this Nazi and break my #10 slightly femme foot off in his ass.
and NOBODY is jealous of this doucheclown. Im saddened to think this is what we as gay people have become , more fascist and uptight than ignorant str8 trolls could ever hope to be. We are Gay men, we are smarter and better than this.
and for the record, since all your elders were murdered in the 1980s in a govt funded holocaust that left you with no sense of your history it was the femme queens , the drag queens and the sissies that WON you your goddamn freedom to even have shit like grindr without being arrested on a morals charge. Nobody is asking you to date or hang out with guys who are percieved less masculine or femme , but guys do you have to be so nasty and ugly about it all? and yes, people DO care about you , you are ONE OF US? who do you think cares about you ? Straights in North Carolina would lynch and shoot your ass if they could get away with it. WAKE UP !!!
Us calling each other Fags makes it OK for other people to call us fags. I’m not really down with all that. The idea that being “straight acting” is inherently better than being “gay acting” speaks volumes of how we can’t expect respect from others when we can’t even respect ourselves.
It’s interesting that so many men like him place a premium on being strong and tall because I’m 6’2 205 lbs. and I find that it is a huge hindrance in finding a partner. I feel that men are intimidated by my height and act afraid when I try to talk to them. And I think they are afraid to make advances on me as well.
It sounds like he has a case of “small man syndrome” in which he tries to sound bigger than he really is because he is insecure.
Meh… He likes blokey blokes. What’s the big deal? I stopped reading the posts 3/4 of the way down. I can’t get over how guys can be offended?
Is the word and pigeon hole term “fem” the new Nigga?
Look, I have “fem” friends. And I know I couldn’t get hard over a the stereotypical fem guy. I don’t hate them… I just have zero attraction. Great people. Smart and funny… But sexually I feel as attracted to them as I do to a tree or a sheet of roof capping. I don’t see myself as a bad hateful person because of that. My dick doesn’t twitch.
Grindr isn’t NATO… It’s a place to put who you want to fuk. If you’re using it to chat that’s fine but you shouldn’t be offended that someone doesn’t dick twitch for something you think they should.
And I’m 5’7″. And never had a problem hooking up on height. :/
The douche factor comes from someone trying to point at other people and say that they are “not masculine” when there is no definition of masculine. Second, there is an unspoken declaration that “masculine” is more attractive than “not masculine”. There are many shades of grey. By the definition of the douchebag post, he fails his own hookup standards because I can tell he is gay.
Jpeg I sincerely want to understand your logic as I can read the passion in your posts.
Can you please explain what you mean by self loathing and how you came to see people like this? Thanks 🙂
Self-loathing: Hating yourself or others for traits that you possess. For example, being gay. Why hate on other people for being openly gay? You’re gay, so therefore you must hate that part of yourself.
Hmmmm… But isn’t hate and attraction two deprecate things?
I am not attracted by some races or body types.
I don’t hate them… Happy to be friends etc.
Can you expand on why you see it as self loathing if you aren’t attracted to masc. or fem etc.
Danny dear it’s not about not being attracted to fems (which should be punishable by law in all developed countries but that’s kinda off the topic)
it’s about being a self-hating closeted faggot trying too hard to be brutally masculine straight acting hung dudesome broman with a painful itch in the ass.
I’m pretty sure he’s as uncomfortable in his own skin as he has been many pounds of muscle ago.
girl, once again – he is hating himself for his own gay sexual preference thus trying too hard to be straight acting to the core.
now, onto your questions —
> that an 18 year old with no other 30s are self loathing?
> Or would it be self loathing if he only liked older guys?
you’re pulling inconsistent, generalized, unrelated examples into discussion on a very transparent and exact subject.
you’re either trolling or clueless.
but 18 y.o. + 30 y.o.s= either insecure or whore
30 + 50 y.o.s = daddy issues
if you have trouble getting laid in your age group you clearly have troubles other than that.
(at the same time, age-gapped relationships can work regardless)
I do not troll and I’m being genuine so genuinely offended. I’ve been polite and do not understand your view. Also, calling me ‘girl’ is not required.
I can see your point that it’s unrelated but I do think you see gathered and self loathing in a lot of places.
I guess we’ll just have to politely differ on our opinions. I see attraction as something that’s defined within us and yes our environment to a degree and our own willingness to push boundaries and taste fruit from a different tree.
Perhaps I’m just slightly more positive and not looking for hate in others. :/
When I see a rude statement I see the author as a wanker… But when they’re on a hook up site stating politely what they are seeking that seems fine to me.
I really would like too read some documented psychological evidence that supports your view.
I’m sure on the other hand there isn’t anything that supports mine.
And please. Don’t throw words like troll and clueless at folks that have done nothing but respectfully tried to widen their own knowledge and understanding. :/
I saw this guy’s profile a way’s back & messaged him that one look at that picture & I could tell he’d had miles of cock in his mouth. He was not amused.
My feeling about these things is tell me what you like, not what you hate.
He’s not a douche. He’s a masculine guy who wants the same. That’s his right, as is his right to say what he wants, however he wants to say it. Your feelings about it are irrelevant. He’s out of your league. Your obnoxious, effeminate posts serve only to prove why you’re so undesirable, as a group.
Speaking of douches… Here’s 2 above that think they’re the saviours of the poor profile lads but just honk out the same old apology… Get sum originality please
Self hating queen. I didn’t even need to read the whole profile to know that, all you need to do is see “masc musc” to know.
Tip for the future: “Masc musc” means “I hate myself and I have body issues!”
He kind of has a point. Some of my friends have said they can’t really pass for straight and in the same breath said they consider themselves masculine. I just look at them and say “Oh honey…”
Lol@antonio, I ended up with a muscular judoka in a bar 2 weeks ago. According to him, the bartender (a hottie) was too feminine (I disagreed on that, he even had more muscles than I do) but to me he was way more masculine than my judoka (who was also a steward), who had a pink neon saying “fuck me” on the forehead.
Who cares? He’s only 5’8″. Shawty.
^ also probably afraid of dating a fem guy taller than him hahaha
@ Jpeg
No, no, you got it wrong. He doesn’t hate himself (why would he?, he is hot). YOU hate him because you know exactly you are not in his league. So are all of you who put this guy down. Stop projecting your hatred to others and start hitting the gym if you want people to notice you!
So transparent…!
@Larry
Thank you!
Finally, some common sense!
@Larry : this guy has way too much muscles IMO, I do not hit the gym to look like that and it usually doesn’t turn me on.
Still, just like Antonio, I consider he has a point.
And he’s propbably hot if you like muscles.
There’s a very odd brand of self hatred at play in these comments that masculinity equates with a perceived notion of heterosexuality of what a heterosexual should be like. In truth very few heterosexual men feel the need to bloat themselves to massive proportions to assert their sexuality, nor do they define themselves by what their muscle mass is. What is a man and what is masculine? Ghandi, Stephen Hawking, Einstein, Martin Luther King are to my mind “real men” and none of them could have held their own in the free weights room. There’s a lot going on in this profile he’s 35 his upper age limit is 35, what’s he going to do next year change the age limit to 36? At some point maybe he’ll grow up and reappraise how he defines masculinity – gender is a fluid concept, especially given that whatever image he portrays what he does in bed makes him a target of hatred for every homophobe out there. I dare say Rick Santorum cuts him no slack for his “masculin” appearance.
Thanks for the perspective, Larry. But you’re just as guilty projecting your assumptions and hatred as the douche on Grindr. Using douchebaggery to point out douchebaggery may be ironic or even hypocritical, but there’s no moral high ground on this site.
Interesting how Larry makes some assumptions about me despite not knowing at all what I look like. That’s ok Larry, I can take the slings, because I’m comfortable with who I am.
By the way, how is he hot? You can’t even see his face!
You guys are all fucking haters… Get over yourselves, everyone has their preference. Hit the gym and you’ll be noticed too, dumbasses.
Yay I get to be noticed by douchebags! I feel so honoured!
What a straight up moron!
I know him. He’s really sweet, a right wing democrat and digs guys of all races and nationalities. Please don’t hate on lobster bisque.
Oh and one more thing… He’s a fierce top with a HUGE piece.
What’s the problem here? The guy is looking to get laid, he’s not interviewing people for a job. He didn’t say he wants to run femme guys over with a lawn mower. He’s prob not the hottest or smartest guy out there but high five on being straight forward and being clear about what turns him on
@ Kenny G:
well put. Finally someone with brains. Thanks man.
@Jpeg:
That’s not difficult. I don’t need a major in psychology to be able to see through you. If, you had a body like him, if you were in his league, if you were hot you would not put others down for being popular. Simple.
This brings us to the main point which all of you seen to forget. The context here is about getting laid and not to eradicate certain groups of the human race. Duh!
I suppose you always go for the dudes who think that they can arbitrate standards of masculinity, eh Kenny? Standards that I may note that are very subjective (contrary to his douchy assertion). If that’s not the definition of douchebag, I’m waiting for a better example.
“That’s not difficult. I don’t need a major in psychology to be able to see through you. If, you had a body like him, if you were in his league, if you were hot you would not put others down for being popular. Simple.”
Really? It’s so simple? Can you possibly come up with a better argument than that? This is like the third person (or maybe not) who said this. It’s as wrong as ever. Maybe you like douchebaggery, but I do not. Sorry.
Oh by the way Tom, sucking up to people who hate you isn’t going to get you laid.
@Jpeg
People usually detest or hate what they can’t get. You Why not live and let live. You seam to have a problem with that.
So now homos dont accept other homos just because they prefer masculinity and muscles? Does that mean we should hate on all the beat lovers and chubby chasers too cause they have a sexual preference as to what they are looking for? With some of the comments I am reading it’s the same rationality that left wing fag haters use to describe all gays as a whole. You know the whole, “it’s different from me, therefore I hate it” mentality. Some of you should really think things through before you post total retardedness. Besides I bet he is a power bottom anyways.
In terms of grindr, masculinity is all about the appearance. I think that 5’8 guys have to work a little harder to get noticed too as its def under average height. To me, masculinity is all about being a good guy, being protective of friends and husband and being aman when it comes to tricky situations and issues. If you think it’s all about hitting the gym you gotta take area pity check. ThereS nothing more fem than a guy who tries to hard to be macho and ends up like aYMCA character. I’m fit but don’t look like this guy for sure!
How many gay guys you seen who swagger into the bar dressed like the situation from jersey shore then have a cocktail and complain about their sick cat? Manly behaviour is he best turn on , not just ‘ acting’
Oh And Larry, please get yourself laid. Try Tom , he sounds pretty desperate
@larry & @tom, strident accusations of hypocrisy and “hating” aside, a man who comes out with “if people can tell you’re gay, you’re not masculine” epitomises a world of self-loathing and desperate need for accptance. No one cares that this thirtysomething short-arse wants muscle boys preferably just out of their teens, what masculine, heterosexual straight-acting red-blooded male wouldn’t?
The profiles put up there are pathetic, but so is this comments section. What a mess.
Between the self-loathing queens praising his femmophobia and the guys defending “another idea of msculinity” while in the same breath putting him down because he’s 5’8… The Western civilization sure fucks up the mind of its kids.
Yep, plenty of douchebaggery to go around here. But the douchbag’s profile buys into the ugliest sort of homophobic drivel that demeans effeminacy among men. Guess what, douchebag? No right wing religious nut is gonna give a shit if you’re “straight acting” because if you like to suck cock or get fucked in the ass, then you are by definition effeminate according to their logic. Same goes for other gay bashers. Think about the effect your exclusionary language has on people, and think, too, about the fact that nearly all gay men (you too?) reported feeling insecure about their masculinity as kids. Why then are you so desperate to conform to a gender system that terrorized so many of us as children? And FYI, muscle queen, if you’ve got to get so built up to prove to yourself and others that you’re a real man, then you’re breaking the logic of masculinity–you’re not supposed to try.
I haven’t read all these comments yet. I was going to post about how certain muscular masculine gay guys don’t “act gay” but could be observed as such by casual observers. On the other hand, I think it’s likely that someone before me has already posted something that is so generic and obvious as that, so there you go. 😉
*grabs Mr. 40N-73W’s muscle tits and scrunches them till they become red-hurt*
I haven’t read all these comments yet. I was going to post about how certain muscular masculine gay guys don’t “act gay” but could be noticed as one such by casual observers. On the other hand, I think it’s likely that someone before me has already posted something that is so generic and obvious as that, so there you go. 😉
*grabs Mr. 40N-73W’s muscle tits and scrunches them till they become red-hurt*
This forum is full of trolls…. Ironically enough I
Highly doubt that he has been disappointed that anyone disapproved of his profile. The pure fact is that if you disapprove of it, then in essence you’re not his type, so no skin off his back. The only difference between him and these trolls on this forum is that he is off living his life while the trolls here are obsessing over hating on him cause they don’t agree with what gets his dick hard. What happened to live and let live? Get a life people…
“People usually detest or hate what they can’t get. You Why not live and let live. You seam to have a problem with that.”
The only problem I have is with people who are douchy and self-loating. Really, do you expect me to just sit by and let douchebags be douchebags?
“The only difference between him and these trolls on this forum is that he is off living his life while the trolls here are obsessing over hating on him cause they don’t agree with what gets his dick hard. What happened to live and let live? Get a life people… ”
Says the dude who comes on the same forum to chastise us all. Hilarity.
You are all pathetic sensitive fags. Someone posted me on here because I am athletic and not into FEMs or older guys. Man up and stop giving a fuck about people who don’t give a fuck about you
Isn’t whining on here a bit femmy? Tsk poor you.
Jpeg I am liking your style !
Actually grindr is a really smart move for this guy. He looks good and the height thing not such as issue . This is what he is offering, many will be interested!
Thanks Timbo! 🙂
> Man up and stop giving a fuck about people who don’t give a fuck about you
same 2 u, musclequeen, same 2 u.
The comments about his height are really funny/rancorous. Could we label them “shortophobia” ?
Besides, a short guy can be sexy as hell.
Sms short man syndrome. Maybe he wears stacked heels like Tom cruise
> Could we label them “shortophobia” ?
smh I find “douchebagsincrasy” more appealing, but whatever rocks your boat, sweetheart.
> Maybe he wears stacked heels like Tom cruise
I bet he takes them out of the closet every morning, spends five minutes deciding if they’re visibly gay enough or not, and then puts them back with a sad face.
The butcher they are the faster they roll over. 100% of the time, all of the time, the masc musc brigade are looking to be pounded.
He is absolutely correct. You queens who disagree are just jealous.
Parker is back from Whatever dark hole he lives in …
What most people are missing (and what makes this guy a douchebag) is that he doesn’t see the irony in describing himself as “masc” while saying that “masculine is not subjective”.
a masc musc dark hole I imagine
From Mr. “bub”: “This forum is full of trolls…”
Merely behaving like the Douche in kind, bud. So, I guess both us and the “douche” above cancel each other out.
But, of course. You care enough about him and what he says to brand us “trolls”. (And, of course, your entire silly argument is based on the notion that we are). Wouldn’t that also put you in the same boat as us? 😉
we can piss and moan about homophobia all we want guys but the way we treat ourselves and each other is PATHETIC.
Id like to meet this Nazi and break my #10 slightly femme foot off in his ass.
and NOBODY is jealous of this doucheclown. Im saddened to think this is what we as gay people have become , more fascist and uptight than ignorant str8 trolls could ever hope to be. We are Gay men, we are smarter and better than this.
and for the record, since all your elders were murdered in the 1980s in a govt funded holocaust that left you with no sense of your history it was the femme queens , the drag queens and the sissies that WON you your goddamn freedom to even have shit like grindr without being arrested on a morals charge. Nobody is asking you to date or hang out with guys who are percieved less masculine or femme , but guys do you have to be so nasty and ugly about it all? and yes, people DO care about you , you are ONE OF US? who do you think cares about you ? Straights in North Carolina would lynch and shoot your ass if they could get away with it. WAKE UP !!!
>> Straights in North Carolina would lynch and shoot your ass if they could get away with it
pretty much sure the douche in question will be the first one to shoot his gun at someone openly gay looking.
Us calling each other Fags makes it OK for other people to call us fags. I’m not really down with all that. The idea that being “straight acting” is inherently better than being “gay acting” speaks volumes of how we can’t expect respect from others when we can’t even respect ourselves.
YOU HATERS ARE JUST SO OBVIOUSLY JEALOUS. HIT THE LACAN BOOKS AND MAYBE YOU’LL GET NOTICED AS WELL.
It’s interesting that so many men like him place a premium on being strong and tall because I’m 6’2 205 lbs. and I find that it is a huge hindrance in finding a partner. I feel that men are intimidated by my height and act afraid when I try to talk to them. And I think they are afraid to make advances on me as well.
It sounds like he has a case of “small man syndrome” in which he tries to sound bigger than he really is because he is insecure.
Meh… He likes blokey blokes. What’s the big deal? I stopped reading the posts 3/4 of the way down. I can’t get over how guys can be offended?
Is the word and pigeon hole term “fem” the new Nigga?
Look, I have “fem” friends. And I know I couldn’t get hard over a the stereotypical fem guy. I don’t hate them… I just have zero attraction. Great people. Smart and funny… But sexually I feel as attracted to them as I do to a tree or a sheet of roof capping. I don’t see myself as a bad hateful person because of that. My dick doesn’t twitch.
Grindr isn’t NATO… It’s a place to put who you want to fuk. If you’re using it to chat that’s fine but you shouldn’t be offended that someone doesn’t dick twitch for something you think they should.
And I’m 5’7″. And never had a problem hooking up on height. :/
The douche factor comes from someone trying to point at other people and say that they are “not masculine” when there is no definition of masculine. Second, there is an unspoken declaration that “masculine” is more attractive than “not masculine”. There are many shades of grey. By the definition of the douchebag post, he fails his own hookup standards because I can tell he is gay.
Self-loathing is never attractive.
Jpeg I sincerely want to understand your logic as I can read the passion in your posts.
Can you please explain what you mean by self loathing and how you came to see people like this? Thanks 🙂
Self-loathing: Hating yourself or others for traits that you possess. For example, being gay. Why hate on other people for being openly gay? You’re gay, so therefore you must hate that part of yourself.
Hmmmm… But isn’t hate and attraction two deprecate things?
I am not attracted by some races or body types.
I don’t hate them… Happy to be friends etc.
Can you expand on why you see it as self loathing if you aren’t attracted to masc. or fem etc.
Danny dear it’s not about not being attracted to fems (which should be punishable by law in all developed countries but that’s kinda off the topic)
it’s about being a self-hating closeted faggot trying too hard to be brutally masculine straight acting hung dudesome broman with a painful itch in the ass.
I’m pretty sure he’s as uncomfortable in his own skin as he has been many pounds of muscle ago.
So, am I on base with your thinking that an 18 year old with no other 30s are self loathing?
Or would it be self loathing if he only liked older guys?
girl, once again – he is hating himself for his own gay sexual preference thus trying too hard to be straight acting to the core.
now, onto your questions —
> that an 18 year old with no other 30s are self loathing?
> Or would it be self loathing if he only liked older guys?
you’re pulling inconsistent, generalized, unrelated examples into discussion on a very transparent and exact subject.
you’re either trolling or clueless.
but 18 y.o. + 30 y.o.s= either insecure or whore
30 + 50 y.o.s = daddy issues
if you have trouble getting laid in your age group you clearly have troubles other than that.
(at the same time, age-gapped relationships can work regardless)
I do not troll and I’m being genuine so genuinely offended. I’ve been polite and do not understand your view. Also, calling me ‘girl’ is not required.
I can see your point that it’s unrelated but I do think you see gathered and self loathing in a lot of places.
I guess we’ll just have to politely differ on our opinions. I see attraction as something that’s defined within us and yes our environment to a degree and our own willingness to push boundaries and taste fruit from a different tree.
Perhaps I’m just slightly more positive and not looking for hate in others. :/
When I see a rude statement I see the author as a wanker… But when they’re on a hook up site stating politely what they are seeking that seems fine to me.
I really would like too read some documented psychological evidence that supports your view.
I’m sure on the other hand there isn’t anything that supports mine.
And please. Don’t throw words like troll and clueless at folks that have done nothing but respectfully tried to widen their own knowledge and understanding. :/
I apologize. don’t take my comments too personally as well.
Are there lesbians in this thread? I smell lesbians.
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I saw this guy’s profile a way’s back & messaged him that one look at that picture & I could tell he’d had miles of cock in his mouth. He was not amused.
My feeling about these things is tell me what you like, not what you hate.
He’s not a douche. He’s a masculine guy who wants the same. That’s his right, as is his right to say what he wants, however he wants to say it. Your feelings about it are irrelevant. He’s out of your league. Your obnoxious, effeminate posts serve only to prove why you’re so undesirable, as a group.
Admin = A sexually frustrated, ugly minority who’s constantly rejected by white dudes
Speaking of douches… Here’s 2 above that think they’re the saviours of the poor profile lads but just honk out the same old apology… Get sum originality please
LOL
No need to be original in response to the same old bitter, effeminate tripe.:)
I’d gladly find a new point, if you could disprove my first one.:)