I don’t understand these guys that identify as “straight” on sites/apps like Grindr. Sure, guys are curious, but after your first or second time, you’re no longer curious. You’re bi, or you’re gay. Identifying as straight is dishonest and confusing. Own up to who you are. Plus, most gay guys won’t meet someone without seeing a face photo. Get used to it.
When a guy writes “No rice/blacks/etc.”, the douche is automatically labeled racist. Why not the guy who is only attracted to men of color ie “No whites need apply”?
To Robert – I can see your point and I think that’s half the reason this douchebag has been submitted. However, since whites rarely, if ever, get discriminated against its not as bad. What I mean is: out of 100 profiles, u are likely to see less than 1 of them say “no whites”, so its not like white guys are gonna get a complex about being white. But with 1 in 4 profiles (approx) saying “no asians”, asians are going to quickly start feeling alienated and ugly and unattractive. Get my point?
He’s a douche just for being DL. To me, someone being in the closet is just flying under the radar, whereas a guy on the DL is dating and marrying women and having babies with them, but having sex with guys on the side. That is just so nasty to me. Quit messing up the lives of people around you. Ugh it drives me insane.
I have said in other posts that there is a place of public shaming of people who use hate speech and pejorative stereotypes (‘no rice, fatties, blacks, bottoms’).
We all have a role in stopping douchey behaviour and I am ashamed to be a part of a community that targets minority groups with hate speech.
Internalised homophobia is no excuse for causing harm to minority groups.
When I read the douche’s profile, I hear Pauline Hanson say ‘please explain’.
Why do peoplw say no asians?..I have seen some fine ass asian guys in New York City Soho, Chinatown & little italy..I’ll try anything once..not really into racial hangups..Its ignorant..You can miss out on finding a soulmate over foolery like this.Never dated a white gay, or asian before, theyre style and swagger isnt the same as the latin & black community. Even our style of music is different and we may totally preffer different scenes, clubs & bars, but you never know what can happen with people.I can try to like tyler swift & Garth brooks if my parner likes it..lol Cant we all just get along and sing Kumbi Yama Lord!?
I really don’t get the racial preference thing. I’ve had fun with guys whose skin vary widely in color. They are either hot or not; you are either attracted to them or not. Putting it in your profile is simply cowardice, frankly.
“DL” “straight” “only attracted to men of color” ..how about phrasing these things in a truthful and more positive manner e.g. “gutless, self-deluding closet-case seeks black cock”
Wow. I thought that whole “wah wah everyone is racist towards whites” was the tired gimmick of turd-kickin’ sister-marryin’ queer-draggin’ gun-jerkin’ hilly-billy (straight) rednecks and their over-the-hill gated-community suburban cousins. I guess the white gays think they’re in the position to hop on the “political correctness bawww” wagon too, eh?
Heh heh. Progress is a strange thing, no?
I honestly don’t know what that picture is of. Sure, toward the top it appears as a torso I’m a tub, but it looks like there’s rando, segmented parts of his body trailing off to the right. It looks like an extra large glow worm was thrown in the tub
Why do any of you even care? Because you WISH you had a shot with someone whose abs look like that. All of your effeminate defense mechanisms won’t make him any less attractive.
He’s not a douche. He’s just smart enough to set his parameters for what he wants and how he wants it. Your feelings about it are IRRELEVANT. If you’re not what he wants, BE A MAN and move on.
Not so douchey? So he’s not out – not everyone is. He likes black guys? Good for them. He’s not being particularly racist or anti anyone.
Not a particularly coherent profile — might not really matter. pic don’t show much – probably doesn’t want to get his mug on this website!
Black as Bernie Mac gay dudes are always “mixed”, “race no barrier” or absolutely unidentified on Grindr or any online forum.
I’m probably the most un-PC person in the country but the race identifying categories to select from on apps and websites are absolutely comical……especially after 8 years of Obama.
@Adam “Try not to project how you spend your lonely nights onto the guy in the photo.:)”
Nah, Bucky, we don’t want to end up looking like you; since that’s what you’re doing (projecting how you spend your lonely nights) on DBoG. Get over yourself.
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I’m not totally clear as to whether this man actually has anything against gays. He’s on the downlow; probably due to his hostile environment. If I’m reading him correctly, he does want to be with guys, but when they identify as gay, he’s afraid of being outed. I don’t think he means that he dislikes gays and don’t want anything to do with them. He’s just saying that if he’s being hit up, don’t give him away.
I’m guessing English may not be his first language, and his profile message may have been lost slightly in translation.
As far as being “only attracted to colored men”, it’s sad and discouraging that racial exclusion goes both ways. He’s definitely missing out on a lot of great (Caucasian) sexy guys who may have a lot to offer.
As a fellow man of color, I can understand and relate to his situation. However, combating racial exclusion by racially excluding back never makes one look good. Men are beautiful, regardless of their race.
p. s. What exactly is “pix after interview”? I didn’t get it.
I’m sorry, I don’t meet people without faces. Like honestly do you think your gf will troll grindr looking for your facepic?
If you meet someone you know, then all the better for hookups no?
I blame society.
Just kidding!!! It’s 2011. Grow a fucking set, dl dude.
I don’t understand these guys that identify as “straight” on sites/apps like Grindr. Sure, guys are curious, but after your first or second time, you’re no longer curious. You’re bi, or you’re gay. Identifying as straight is dishonest and confusing. Own up to who you are. Plus, most gay guys won’t meet someone without seeing a face photo. Get used to it.
No face = coward = the opposite of a “real man”
http://www.stopracismandhomophobiaongrindr.com/
When a guy writes “No rice/blacks/etc.”, the douche is automatically labeled racist. Why not the guy who is only attracted to men of color ie “No whites need apply”?
I’m not sure if this is a horrible picture of a set of abs or an excellent picture of an obscure Dali painting
To Robert – I can see your point and I think that’s half the reason this douchebag has been submitted. However, since whites rarely, if ever, get discriminated against its not as bad. What I mean is: out of 100 profiles, u are likely to see less than 1 of them say “no whites”, so its not like white guys are gonna get a complex about being white. But with 1 in 4 profiles (approx) saying “no asians”, asians are going to quickly start feeling alienated and ugly and unattractive. Get my point?
The point is you need to climb down off your soapbox, queen. No one wants to read your boring overly long ramblings here. Off your medz today?
Parker, you’re a racist douche, no one in their right mind cares what you have to say. I bet you’re a fugly bitch too.
We’re meaner to each other than straight people are to us.
It’s a shame we don’t realize the true enemy.
He’s a douche just for being DL. To me, someone being in the closet is just flying under the radar, whereas a guy on the DL is dating and marrying women and having babies with them, but having sex with guys on the side. That is just so nasty to me. Quit messing up the lives of people around you. Ugh it drives me insane.
@Rocky.
I have said in other posts that there is a place of public shaming of people who use hate speech and pejorative stereotypes (‘no rice, fatties, blacks, bottoms’).
We all have a role in stopping douchey behaviour and I am ashamed to be a part of a community that targets minority groups with hate speech.
Internalised homophobia is no excuse for causing harm to minority groups.
When I read the douche’s profile, I hear Pauline Hanson say ‘please explain’.
Why do peoplw say no asians?..I have seen some fine ass asian guys in New York City Soho, Chinatown & little italy..I’ll try anything once..not really into racial hangups..Its ignorant..You can miss out on finding a soulmate over foolery like this.Never dated a white gay, or asian before, theyre style and swagger isnt the same as the latin & black community. Even our style of music is different and we may totally preffer different scenes, clubs & bars, but you never know what can happen with people.I can try to like tyler swift & Garth brooks if my parner likes it..lol Cant we all just get along and sing Kumbi Yama Lord!?
I really don’t get the racial preference thing. I’ve had fun with guys whose skin vary widely in color. They are either hot or not; you are either attracted to them or not. Putting it in your profile is simply cowardice, frankly.
“DL” “straight” “only attracted to men of color” ..how about phrasing these things in a truthful and more positive manner e.g. “gutless, self-deluding closet-case seeks black cock”
Because you can’t be racist to whites, that’s why it isn’t under the racism tag.
Yeah I am Black and I think this guy’s comment is also racist and he is sadly in denial about his sexuality ‘straight” LOL
DL? BS. Tore up from the neck up.
You can’t be racist towards whites?? White is a race too and you can have a racist attitude towards white people. #justsayin
Wow. I thought that whole “wah wah everyone is racist towards whites” was the tired gimmick of turd-kickin’ sister-marryin’ queer-draggin’ gun-jerkin’ hilly-billy (straight) rednecks and their over-the-hill gated-community suburban cousins. I guess the white gays think they’re in the position to hop on the “political correctness bawww” wagon too, eh?
Heh heh. Progress is a strange thing, no?
So confusing… Not gay but looking for men – but attracted to men of color…but not gay – He needs a dictionary
I honestly don’t know what that picture is of. Sure, toward the top it appears as a torso I’m a tub, but it looks like there’s rando, segmented parts of his body trailing off to the right. It looks like an extra large glow worm was thrown in the tub
They’re so proud to write “str8”, when I just read “to weak to look honestly at myself”
Why do any of you even care? Because you WISH you had a shot with someone whose abs look like that. All of your effeminate defense mechanisms won’t make him any less attractive.
He’s not a douche. He’s just smart enough to set his parameters for what he wants and how he wants it. Your feelings about it are IRRELEVANT. If you’re not what he wants, BE A MAN and move on.
Yeah cos straight guys love lounging around in bubble baths listening to Kylie –
LOL
Try not to project how you spend your lonely nights onto the guy in the photo.:)
Not so douchey? So he’s not out – not everyone is. He likes black guys? Good for them. He’s not being particularly racist or anti anyone.
Not a particularly coherent profile — might not really matter. pic don’t show much – probably doesn’t want to get his mug on this website!
Black as Bernie Mac gay dudes are always “mixed”, “race no barrier” or absolutely unidentified on Grindr or any online forum.
I’m probably the most un-PC person in the country but the race identifying categories to select from on apps and websites are absolutely comical……especially after 8 years of Obama.
Who is mixed, btw.:)
@Adam “Try not to project how you spend your lonely nights onto the guy in the photo.:)”
Nah, Bucky, we don’t want to end up looking like you; since that’s what you’re doing (projecting how you spend your lonely nights) on DBoG. Get over yourself.
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I’m not totally clear as to whether this man actually has anything against gays. He’s on the downlow; probably due to his hostile environment. If I’m reading him correctly, he does want to be with guys, but when they identify as gay, he’s afraid of being outed. I don’t think he means that he dislikes gays and don’t want anything to do with them. He’s just saying that if he’s being hit up, don’t give him away.
I’m guessing English may not be his first language, and his profile message may have been lost slightly in translation.
Please cut him some break.
As far as being “only attracted to colored men”, it’s sad and discouraging that racial exclusion goes both ways. He’s definitely missing out on a lot of great (Caucasian) sexy guys who may have a lot to offer.
As a fellow man of color, I can understand and relate to his situation. However, combating racial exclusion by racially excluding back never makes one look good. Men are beautiful, regardless of their race.
p. s. What exactly is “pix after interview”? I didn’t get it.